How To Plan For Your First Date
Although this planning for your first date article is written for men, women can also have fun reading this and see how guys fumble and ruin their first dates and see if it’s true from a girl’s poit of view.
Guys, your adrenaline is pumping and you are getting real nervous but elated because this is your first date with the girl you are interested in quite awhile. You are extremely excited and hoping that there will be a second date, then a third and ultimately can claim her to be your prized girlfriend.
But are you really ready for the exciting moment? Have you plan your first date thoroughly? This is because if you are not prepared, you could very well ruin your first date and may never get to date her again.
So here are some first date ideas and tips on things you should and should not do during this precious moment. So put on your best behaviour as there are rules in the dating game and there are restrictions on how you should act and behave, especially if it is your first date.
The most common first date mistake is that too many guys go out on dates spends too much time worrying about getting a second date that they become too uptight and unnatural. Hey, relax and enjoy your date because girls can sense your nervousness and they are repelled by it.
You see, when you are comfortable, it is easier to think clearer and make better informed decisions. This way, you can avoid doing dumb things that can ruin your first date, such as being a nervous wreck!
Planning a date is very important, especially so on your first date because she will decide whether to continue dating you from this very first experience. That is why you must choose an activity or activities that you can both enjoy together. If you pick an activity that is not going to be fun for the woman you are dating, then you can kiss goodbye to future dates with her.
Next, don’t go out with her without taking a shower or putting on some clean clothes just because you’ve rushed out to meet her immediately after work from the office. Women with their maternal instinct like men who can and do take care of themselves. If you have bad hygiene habits or smell horribly, she is going to be nauseated for the rest of the night. Do you want her to puke over you?
However, don’t put on too much cologne because this will mask your own natural sexual attraction scent, your human pheromones.
Be confident, outgoing and make decisions regarding the night’s program confidently. Self confidence is a manly trait that girls adore very much. Women find confident men irresistible! So be one.
Do not grumble about your work, asking her what to do next or behaving in a nervous anxious manner. Just banter with her as if she is your best friend even though it is your first date. This will make you look and feel very natural and she will let down her guard and be very comfortable with you.
Men say and do many rude and disgusting things when they are with their male friends without even knowing it because those are your buddies and you do not care about your impression on them. However, some of these things are taboos in the company of girls. So if you are rude or disgusting, you are not going to make a good impression on her. If you have to execute bodily functions such as a fart or burp loudly, just make sure that she is not aware.
A very common misconception amongst guys is that girls like men with money to spend. This is usually not true. So if you spend most of the time flashing your cash, credit cards and talking about your finances to impress her, you are making a grave mistake because unless she is going for your money, you are going to bore her to death. And if she is really going after your money, then you are really going to be in deep trouble when you show off like that!
This may be common sense, but guys being guys, it is our natural instinct to look a little longer than usual when we caught sight of a beautiful woman. Well, be very well guarded about this during your date as most women want a one woman man. If she thinks that she has to compete for your attention, she is going to be a very upset date.
Next, if you happen to bump into your friends while with her, just say hello and then move on fast. Don’t spend all your time hanging out with and talking to them the whole time. She is your date for the night, not your friends.
Dismissing your buddies so as not to interrupt your date with her shows that the time with her is important to you. If you put her aside to hang with the boys more, then she is very likely to see this as an indicator on how the future will be if she becomes your girlfriend.
Do understand that being a gentleman is something that will never go out of style, however, the line is very thin on being a gentleman and a wussy (wimp). Be a gentleman, not a wussy!
The ultimate don’t on a first date is to make sexual innuendos or be explicit in that respect. If you are only looking for a sexual fling, you may try, but if you are looking forward to keep her as a girlfriend, don’t even suggest it.
You are not guaranteed sex when you go out on a date, especially the first date, less you come across as a pervert and making sexual comments can make your date feel uncomfortable and even irritated.
Yes, women enjoy sex too but they don’t like being expected to have it, talking about it constantly, or hearing details that are best left in the bedroom.
Yes, you can act a bit cocky and funny now and then and she will like it because of your sense of humor. Being cocky and funny most of the time is for flirting and picking up women, but you are not picking her up now as she is your date. However, just be careful about being funny as some jokes and one liners may be cheesy and corny that they may turn her off.
If she enjoys the night out with you and she will with these first date tips, you can bet she will be eagerly waiting for you to ask her out again.
About the author
Chris Chew is a fitness, health and relationship consultant. Read his free articles at First Date Ideas and Be Sexually Attractive PheromonesDistributed by Content Crooner
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